Friday, September 25, 2015

Making A Jump into Fostering

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I believe God is calling for Trav and I to open our doors to God's children through fostering and hopefully eventually fostering-to-adopt. God has been so generous in providing these little stepping stools in our lives together, that everything just comes together. As Travis graduates, and as we have bought a new house, we are planning on getting our house ready to have little foster kids in our house. We had our first orientation, and will be having our first home visit soon.

Anytime the word "foster parents" comes up in our conversations, I automatically feel judged. There is a lack of support from others. Usually I hear remarks as, "why?", "don't you want to have your own?", "what if something is wrong with them?", "what if you fall in love with them, and they have to go back to their parents?", "it's different when you have your own", "you might not be able to have dogs and foster kids", "by that time, you should just have your own." Really? God is pointing us in the direction of one thing, and you're trying to get us in a different direction? Those who have been truly inspired and who are genuinely excited for us, I can count on one hand.

As I told Travis about being discouraged because there isn't much support, Travis pointed out, "Babe, who cares what they have to say? This is between me, you, and God." Isn't that the truth? God has put this on our hearts, and even with all the negativity surrounding us on our decision, the feeling of wanting to be a part of this, has only gotten stronger. 

As I was talking to Kate she exclaimed, "Don't ever stop talking about fostering. You can inspire someone. You inspired me. You can impact someone else's life who may have not even considered it." Some people may not agree with the decisions we make, but perhaps it can be an eye-opener to someone. It should never be about us. There are kids in your community that need you.




"{Talking about her adoptive mom}..No one could love me more." - Heidi

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Oh, I Love You Too


My phone rang with my father on the other side saying, "Ashley, come here as soon as you can. Grandma isn't doing well." Apparently, her breathing was fading. I gave her a hug and a kiss for one last time, making sure to let her to tell grandpa that we said hi and that we loved her.

My grandma was so sweet. My favorite times were going to her house on my lunch break. She would insist that I would need to put more weight on, and would always have cheese and crackers, soup or cereal waiting for me while we sat and talked. Some nights, I would even spend the night with her along with Brittany. Most of those nights, we would spend watching old Western movies or just chit-chatting about life.

As she got older, she moved to multiple homes. She was shy and conservative while she was younger, but as her memory started to fade, she would make you laugh until your tummy hurt. One time she told my dad he was cheap because he wouldn't give her any money to go to the grocery store to get groceries. (She was in the nursing home at the time, lol). She would have this little laugh too when she knew she would say something funny and would watch us laugh. Although her memory was gone, she would always remember, like anytime she would greet us, if we wanted something to drink (mostly a beer for the adults).



With the times when she grew up they wouldn't just come out and tell each other they would love each other. However, when I would tell her I loved her, she would say in her sweet voice, "Oh, I love you too." How I miss that voice. Sometimes I think that they know when the end is near, as she repeated to my aunt a couple days before she passed, "You know I love you, right?



Grandma, I love you and miss you.



Friday, September 4, 2015

Lisa & Nick are now MARRIED!!! :)

Nick and Lisa are now MARRIED!!!! :)
Photo by Shelby Chari Photography
Photo by Shelby Chari Photography

So one thing that they had which was so fun was a SELFIE booth (I mean, we've been learning to use the selfie sticks for the last couple of weeks).  It was so much fun!












One thing I was so excited to get over, was the speech. I hate public speaking and hate talking in front of people, so I totally just looked down at my paper the entire time, haha:

My dearest Lisa,
Where has the time gone? It seems like just the other day when we were in third grade wearing our sandals with the white socks, passing notes back and forth, talking about silly teenage stuff, dressing up in prom dresses, and dreaming about our wedding days.
I’ve heard the quote said, “Best friends are the people in life that make you laugh a little louder, smile a little brighter, and make life a little better” That quote describes our friendship perfectly. God has truly blessed me with having a best friend like you, and I don’t know what I would do without you. You are truly one of the best people in my life. I can count on you through anything. After all, nothing has really changed that day since I met you in Mr. Peterson’s class. You are still the same girl that can light up a room just by being in it. Your smile is contagious, because everyone can see your beautiful personality shining through.
Ever since you and Nick started talking, your smile becomes even brighter when he is around. Nick simply adores you.
Today, is the day that you get married. Marriage is a beautiful thing. Sometimes it can be difficult, but in those times, you guys need to remember that you are in this thing together, through thick and thin and that you wouldn’t want to do this marriage thing with anyone else. Remember to cherish those little moments, make each other laugh on a daily basis, encourage each other, continue to go on new adventures, and continue to be thankful towards each other always.
I also hope today that you feel your daddy’s presence near. I know you really wanted your dad to physically meet Nick, but instead, I think your daddy did something else for you. I think he helped align the stars just right to help you and Nick meet. Your daddy is beaming with happiness today as he watches every step that you take. And he couldn’t be more proud of the lady you became.
Lisa and Nick, I wish you a marriage more beautiful than your wedding day. For a lifetime of happiness with love and joy, surrounded by family and friends. And a happily ever after.