Friday, April 29, 2011

True Life: I've Relocated for Love


Sometimes I wonder if I made the right decision to move here for love. I mean, did I make the right decision and chose what was best for both of us? Right?


Heck yah I did.

Recap: Trav and I met in April 2009 and fell in love fast. After the first day of us meeting, we were barley apart, except for the time I went for two weeks to Florida and for a week when he went to WI. It was difficult being so far away from each other, but nothing prepared us for what was going to be coming next: Trav broke the news that he got a job. This job was not located anywhere close, but instead 3,000 miles away from home. We knew he had to go and wanting him to stay would have just held him back. We decided to try the long distance relationship thing.

In July, we (Trav's mom, brother, friends, family and I) planned a surprise going away party for Trav before he left. He hated surprise parties, but I really thought he should have one because he needed to know how much everyone was going to miss him. The day of the party, I took Trav out where we did a scavenger hunt of places around town of places where we went and where I would miss him the most (including the river walk, the restaurant that we first met at, and putt -putt). I left him clues, and when he thought of the last place we were going to go (even though we never went)I told him that we needed to go back to his house to get a blanket, but instead he came back to his mom's house with a bunch of people and looked like this: 

We knew the long distance thing was going to be tough, but we were determined to make it work. We figured out that I would move to Arizona so we could be together. The problem? I had work and was a year away from graduating. However, the best thing for me personally, was to graduate. I was close and I needed that piece of paper to make my future better. But every time he would come home, it was like a little tease of not seeing him for very long, and it would always be so hard to say bye.


It was hard being so far apart from Trav, but having Skype was a life saver. Not only could we talk, but we could actually see each other. Trav and I would save our money up (okay, mostly Trav) to see each other about every two months for about a week. It was so hard to imagine actually being in Phoenix, especially since it took me 5 months until I could actually get out there (winter break). When I was able to get off the plane for the first time, I knew that Arizona was the place that I really wanted to be, and made our thoughts more serious.


Even though we thought a year being away from each other was going to go by super slow (at some points it did) but the year went by faster than we imagined. Trav was busy working nights and in his spare time he was looking for houses and exploring Phoenix. The time between working and school, I was able to spend my extra time with my friends and family. For the first year of our relationship, we spent more time away than together. 

May finally rolled around. I graduated. Then June hit before I was prepared for it. However, the timing couldn't be more perfect for my big move. I actually lost my job in June due to school wide budget cuts. I was getting more and more excited to get out of the town where I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life.


However, it didn't really hit me that I was leaving EVERYTHING that I knew behind when it came time to move. This included my friends, family, the town I grew up in, all my jobs, etc. It didn't really sink in until we got in the car and pulled out of my neighborhood. I had to keep reminding myself that this was just the next adventure, and not to look back. Even though I wanted Travis and I to make it as a couple, if Trav and I didn't make it at least I was given the chance to live in a big city, make new friends, get a job on my own, and etc. I don't know if I would have had the opportunity otherwise.


The road trip was unbelievably fun. I was so scared that we were going to run out of things to talk about, but Trav and I barley even turned on the radio and just talked the entire time. We were able to stay with friends along the way in Utah and Colorado. My car even broke down in Colorado. Thankfully it wasn't anything serious (just a battery), but I still had to have my car towed.

When we pulled up to the house, 3 days after driving, we walked into the house. A sudden chill came across me while I thought, "This is home." I was more excited by this point, even though knowing that we had nothing except a bed (our couch hadn't been delivered at this point) we knew there was lots to do because my parents were coming seven days later. Which gave us a full week to get the house ready in time.

At first, it was pretty stressful knowing our short time limit of when we needed to get an empty house to become a full house. We were spending money up the bazoo getting things for the house, and I didn't even have a job. If Trav wasn't working, then we would spend our time together shopping for house things. On top of that, Trav's brother and father were coming a week after my parents would be leaving. Did I mention my parents were coming the next week? Ha.

During the time our families were here, it kind of put a strain in our relationship. We were too busy to even spend some alone time together and here we were: living together. We weren't even used to each other habits and we had company the first weeks of just moving in together. On top of that stress I couldn't seem to find a job anywhere. Don't get me wrong, it was nice to have family and see us, because we weren't sure when we would see them next. (Plus, they helped us by getting some stuff together for the house that was needed).

Trav was sleeping during the days, working during the nights so I felt like I was all alone. It was tough. I barley was able to make any new friends, except for our neighbor, Janice. She actually moved to Arizona from South Carolina two months before me. Her and her fiance are like our family here. But things didn't come as easy as I thought they were going to. I cried some days, other days, I was just so happy to be away.

So I wouldn't be so alone and since we had the time, we decided to get a puppy. This took up most of my free time, making sure he was okay and helped with me with my homesickness. But I still felt like things were missing: I missed my friends and family. It made it worse that I wasn't able to find a job right away.

We pulled through our obstacles, and currently we couldn't be happier. I love Travis and I admire everything that he does. He is so special and is still the guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I want to dedicate my life to getting to know him every day.

Moral of story: it was worth the wait. And I do believe long distance can work, but you both have to be determined to make it through. And perhaps, if you relocate it will be a new, exciting adventure for you both.

Saturday, April 23, 2011

My bestie got hitched!


Jocelyn and I would always spend countless hours, days, weeks, years wondering if we would ever find "the one". Jocelyn has indeed found the lucky man that she wants to spend the rest of her life with after just dating him (Joel) since January 1, 2011. 


This week, Jocelyn called me in the middle of the week to tell me, "I'm getting married sooner than expected". Which of course, is fine. I was thinking sometime this summer, instead of the summer of 2012 (which was their orginal plan). I mean, this girl is crazy in love, but I was not expecting to hear what came next, "like this Friday." Um, wwwhhhhaaatttt????


Silently my mind started dazing off into another world and all I could keep thinking was, "I just started a new job. I can't possibly take off this weekend". I want and needed to be there. I mean this girl is my best friend, we have been there for each other through thick and thin since freshman year of biology and homeroom class. I consider this girl part of my family and I didn't want to miss one of the most important days of her life. After all, we know each others families, each others deepest (darkest) secrets, many laughs, even tears together.


My mind was settled after she stated reading my mind and said something like, "Don't worry, we just talked to my parents about it last night. We are still going to have a big wedding later. We just want to be married and not just boyfriend and girlfriend when we live together. We love each other and we both want to this." What could I say? When you know - you just know. There is no time limit put on love, or when you should get married. After all, they just want to live happily ever after and if it's sooner than what others imagined, so be it.


So on April 22, they were wed by Joel's father. I'm sure the ceremony was beautiful and I'm so sorry that I missed it BUT I will def. make it for the big wedding (and I hope it's more than a 2-3 day notice). Once there are more pictures, I will post them. She is one beautiful bride. Treat her good Joel, she's the best!


Congrats Joel and Jocelyn. I'm so happy for you both! xoxoxo.







God Gave me You


So I am posting this a tad late, BUT, it's better late than never :0) The other day while I was getting ready for my first day of work (yes, I am a working woman now!) Trav told me that Tatum had something for me. So I found Tater and found this note attached in his collar.


Aww... this is exactly why I love my boys!! 



Tuesday, April 19, 2011

2 Year Anniversary

Because Friday wasn't long enough, we ended up splitting our anniversary into Friday and Saturday.


On Thursday after finding out that I got the job that I wanted Trav came home and surprised me with two different kinds of flowers. One was for getting the job, and the other one was for our two years as an early gift. Isn't he sweet?





Day 1: Picnic 






Okay, so it wasn't exactly what I planned. But whenever is it? I wanted to be just Trav and I but he wanted to have the dogs come along.  Of course, they ended up coming along for the entertainment. 


We had a good 15 minutes to eat because we didn't want to be late to meet the potential adopters (and Saturday would be a bad day to have a meet and greet).


Tatum kept trying to eat our food and was in our faces most of the time trying to lick them. Trav forgot the chocolate strawberries and I ended up forgetting the champagne. 


Overall, it was still beautiful even though we were in a hurry.


Day 2

Um... sooo.... I forgot to take photos. How come that always happens?

But after Sinbad, now George, got picked up by his new family (see pic below), 

Trav and I went golfing. Usually I just ride along in the cart, but this time because there were SOOOOO many people on the golf course - I took advantage of it, and started golfing in my dress and flip flops! This was my first time ever on a real golf course. It was a lot of fun and I wish I could get more into it but I played horrible. I was basically playing putt-putt and Trav wasn't in the swing of things either where he kept hitting the balls towards people's houses. Oops. But it made us feel better when one guy told us that he saw someone climbing his fence earlier trying to get his golf ball.

Then we went to Tagliana's for dinner and we split a salad, an entree, and a pitcher of beer. Have you ever been there? If you live in AZ and haven't you need to! The service and the food was all excellent. A little pricey for us, BUT it was our two year anniversary and celebration was in order! We will def. be going back there again. I highly recommend this place, esp. because it is family owned.

Gifts

My big plan was for us to go and ride around in some go-carts because it just sounded like pure fun. Trav didn't want to because he thought it would be more fun to have other people go with us. We ended up deciding to go at a different time.


Thanks to Austin Sundrops suggestion,  I thought we could make a ceramic piece together, but then we would have to have it fired and whatnot which could take a while. I thought it would be better to do this another time because we have been spending a lot of money lately (mattress, plants, pool chemicals) and because I won't get paid for almost 3 weeks. But, I can tell you, this sounds like incredible fun and we will end up doing it one day! :) 

Instead, we planted some plants in our backyard and we decided that they would be for our two year anniversary and over the years we could watch them grow. 









Monday, April 11, 2011

Let It Be, let it be....

We love when people come to visit and we try to make the most of it. Here are some of the other fun things we did while Trav's mom was visiting:


Visited Cave Creek and fell in love with everything

Found the place that Ryan and Kara will be getting married

Even though I don't have many pictures of Cave Creek, it is absolutely beautiful. I would def. recommend this place to visit :)

went to the zoo










petted and fed some sting rays




visited the Botanical Garden (which if you're into desert landscaping and every sort of cactus there is, this is the place for you. Not us so much).




(Don't go if you don't really like cactus' because that's ALL that they have!)

did the Apache Trail


let Tatum drive the truck with Annie (our foster pup) in the back seat


look at Tatum's guilty face!

at the end of the dirt road part of the Apache trail, we found this at the end:





visited Tombstone and watched a gun fight







saw the world's largest rose tree that just started blooming (make sure it has bloomed fully before paying to see it)





went to Bisbee and did a ghost tour
 



...and all of a sudden dots started appearing in our pictures










and we picked up yet another foster.
World, meet Sinbad. He is pretty awesome.