Monday, February 21, 2011

What I Want in a Guy


You may be asking yourself, "why is she posting this?" I'm posting this because I smile ear to ear as I read this list, knowing how lucky I am.  I think every girl should have her standards of things she can live with, or live without.  

I wrote this before I even met Travis. In April 2009, God introduced Travis in my life. I'm the happiest when I am with him.

*Disclaimer: No one is perfect though, not even Travis or I, but we have worked together and have come a long way in our relationship.*



“I’m not settling for anything less than everything”

I want a guy who:

1.)  Will love me no matter what I do. No matter what stupid mistakes I make. No matter how I look. If I gain some weight or if I'm in my sweats all day.
2.)  Will appreciate me and won't take me for granted. Simple things like telling me “thanks” or just give me a massage, just because.
3.)  A guy that I know his family, friends and co-workers. I want to be involved in his life, just not “talk” where nobody has even seen me. I want him to be proud of me to show me off to everyone.
4.)  Will take me places – not ALL the time. Sometimes we’ll need our alone time, but it’s nice to be involved with his life.
5.)  Who will talk to me when they have problems bothering them. Money matters, family matters, friends matters, work matters – just anything. Period. If you can't talk to me then what's the use?
6.)  That I can trust – no matter what. He can know my deepest secrets that no one else knows and vice versa.
7.)  That will brag about me – it would be nice to know that he thinks his girl is special and not someone that digusts you.
8.)  I want to be able to trust him at all times and the same for him with me. I can’t stand liars.
9.)  Will make me feel like I’m the only girl in his life. I don't want to hear talk about other girls who hit on him because he’s so "hot". Nor, do I want want to hear/see him about checking out other girls. You can look and not touch, but you don’t do that in FRONT of your girlfriend.
10.) Someone who will only make me feel beautiful but says that I’m beautiful.
11.) Will buy me flowers once in a while – even though they may be the cheap kind. I don’t have to have them all the time, but it’s just the thought. Isn't that what guys are suppose to do?
12.) Will do sweet little things for me – like take a simple walk, help me out with chores, go to the store with me, or even just help me carry the groceries in. In a relationship, you do things that you don’t necessarily want to do, but you do because you love that person, no matter how much it sucks.
13.) That can make me laugh no matter what, don’t care if I’m in a bad mood.
14.) That will call me in the middle of the day just to tell me he loves me. For no reason, just because.
13.) Someone who can love my friends and family – no matter how crazy they are. They mean everything to me and that will never change.
14.) Someone who still finds me attractive after all the time we’ve been together.
15.) That will kiss me always goodnight, preferably on the forehead.
16.) Someone that supports me – with school and work. I will do the same for him.
17.) That doesn’t tear me down. The person that I love and admire the most shouldn't be cutting someone they supposely love down. The fact is nobody is perfect. Sorry if the food I make is burnt or if I mess up the laundry, but at least I'd be trying.
18.) Someone that I can cuddle with – no matter if his friends are around or what time of day it is. Even if my curly hair is all over or your "too hot".
19.) That will hang out with me some nights even if it’s a guys night. NOT every night, but it shouldn’t kill him to hang out with me once in a while. And it shouldn't be a chore to him to have to hang out with my friends/family. Again, my friends are a part of me and always will be and if you can't do something as hang out with the people that matter to me the most in my life than that's pretty pathetic.
20.)  I want to know about what he thinks. About news, politics, the stuff that's important to him and what he thinks about me. If I mess up, than tell me. If it's not working out, tell me. I don’t want to be hanging out with someone who will dump me in the sight of a another girl  to play mind games around.  I don't want to stay in a relationship that neither one of us is unhappy.
21.) I don’t want to fight all the time. I hate fights and being mad. Again, being unhappy isn't going to work for neither of us. Simple as that.
22.) Where we can prove everyone wrong – with OUR love story. Not anyone else’s. I want to be able to prove that there is a thing as “true love”. One day I'll be old and gre and I want to have my love bug next to me on the front porch. I want to be able to tell people our story and that I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.
23.) I want a guy who will stick by my side, even if he thinks wherever or whatever we are doing is boring. I don’t want him to leave early and make me feel like an idiot because he didn’t want to be there.
24.) That I can wrestle with and just have fun with. 
25.) That I could have forever with. Every relationship is going to have its ups and downs, but I want to work through that all.
26.) A guy who can prove to me that they’re not all the same. It’s true 98% of guys are just pure jerks. That’s just how I feel and I’m stubborn. It’s hard to change my mind, but if a guy is worth it he should be able to change my mind easily.
27.) I want someone who walks next to me. Not someone who leads.  I want someone who will want my opinion on things to and whose my best friend. The one I can rely on no matter what, and the one that I will always love.
28.) Someone who can do all of that and be amazing. If he can’t do this, then he’s not worth my time and we shouldn’t be together.

And for all of you who are single, I think you should make a list of everything you want in a mate. Because someone who is truly amazing will surpass all of your wants in someone. 

Am I the only dork who wrote out a list of what they wanted in a mate? 
If so, how has it worked out for you?

3 comments:

  1. Ashley, I am SO glad you're not in that crappy 3 yr relationship with that ASS!!! You DO deserve SO MUCH better and Travis is pretty darn good! (even if I have only met him like once or twice haha!) What you write about him makes me know he's a great guy. Someone who you deserve and who really doesn't deserve you because you're amazing haha. Love you!!

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  2. Oh my gosh I thought I was crazy for writing a list! LOL I absolutely love yours, I'm glad that it worked out in your favor! [Go Trav!]

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Thanks for being so lovely! :)